If It Seems Too Good To Be True, It Probably Is
You are looking for a place to nurture and take care of your loved one. This could be your mother. I talk to my mom on the phone at least once a day. I care about her as I care about my husband and daughter. If she ever developed dementia, I would want nothing but exceptional care. It could be your father, grandmother, aunt, sibling, or even your spouse. If you are offered a “deal”, make sure you understand why. Is it because the community has too many vacancies?
I’ll tell you what. In confidence, your loved one will continue to age. Most likely, his or her health will not get any better. You may be looking into assisted living because your loved one needs help safely managing medications or preparing meals. Maybe your loved one has had a recent fall? You must invest your trust in this assisted living. You have to really. Unless you are a 24/7 caregiver, some things are out of your control. Look around at the cleanliness of the community. Are the residents smiling? Do they appear well-groomed?
You will rely on the nurses and caregivers to help and support your loved one. You want the activities director, administrator, and sales director to guide you. Trust me, money can’t buy decency and trust. Ask questions. Get a sense of the working environment. Your loved one may eventually need assistance toileting, transferring, dressing, bathing, eating, grooming, and ambulating. These caregivers are in place to assist with the activities of daily living.